As a perpetually single friend, I didn't actually consider what would make me happy until I stopped thinking about what I *should* have and how my life lined up against everyone else's. Once I realized I was quite content without a traditional relationship, and, in fact, happier when something fit into MY life instead of fitting myself into something other people had, it all became so much easier. It's incredibly freeing when you no longer feel like you have to apologize for your choices.
Laura, I love this comment (and all your writing) and I’ve been thinking of this exact freedom all week. Mine has been in the context of worrying “for” other people and how in fact I am really just using worry as an excuse to stay trapped in MY old ways. It’s been so freeing to see that and release myself from these ideas of how things “should” be and instead live MY life free from arbitrary expectations. Thank you for your thoughts, so inspiring and true.
As a perpetually single friend, I didn't actually consider what would make me happy until I stopped thinking about what I *should* have and how my life lined up against everyone else's. Once I realized I was quite content without a traditional relationship, and, in fact, happier when something fit into MY life instead of fitting myself into something other people had, it all became so much easier. It's incredibly freeing when you no longer feel like you have to apologize for your choices.
Laura, I love this comment (and all your writing) and I’ve been thinking of this exact freedom all week. Mine has been in the context of worrying “for” other people and how in fact I am really just using worry as an excuse to stay trapped in MY old ways. It’s been so freeing to see that and release myself from these ideas of how things “should” be and instead live MY life free from arbitrary expectations. Thank you for your thoughts, so inspiring and true.
Beautiful story, beautifully told...
It proves that the fantasy is never as good as the real thing. Lyrically speaking...
Traffic's 'Dear Mr. Fantasy' (by Dave Mason) is making happiness someone else's responsibility.
"Dear Mr. Fantasy play us a tune
Something to make us all happy
Do anything to take us out of this gloom..."
Yeah, that doesn't work. On the other hand, Dave Matthews has it right in 'Where Are You Going'
"But I do know one thing
Is where you are is where I belong
I do know where you go, is where I wanna be..."